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Types of guidance

In today’s post, I’ll talk about the type of guidance you should seek in your journey to success.

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On your path to your goals, you will definitely meet many outstanding individuals. However, not all of them will be suitable mentors to seek out.

Here are 4 points to look out:

1. Do they have the success that YOU want for yourself?

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This is the key to seeking out mentors and teachers. They have to be individuals who have achieved what you want to achieve.

By seeking out and modeling individuals who have achieved what you want, you’ll be sure that you are going in the right direction. In addition, with the guidance of these individuals, you may be able to avoid the pitfalls that most people fall for.

2. Mentor vs Senior

Once you have sought out the people who have achieved what you’d want to, differentiate between your seniors and your mentors.

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According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, an individual draws his motivation from different needs. A person will only seek to fulfill ‘higher needs’ once the ‘lower needs’ have been fulfilled. (based on the diagram above)

Therefore, it will be useful for one to differentiate between a teacher and a senior. It is good to surround yourself with like minded individuals and seniors, and it would be better to always seek out advise from the teacher.

3. Be the kind of person you’d like to mentor

A mentor is there to guide you and advise you, a mentor is not a boss who’d breath down your next if you did not do what they told you to.

Imagine that you are successful and have a hugh team of 100 people whom wants some of your time, one to one. You told this 100 people to come for a training event that is to be carried out by one of your top team member, and only 5 turned up.

Would you concentrate on guiding the 5 who came, or would you spend time chasing the 95 who did not turn up?

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No one likes to herd cats, especially if time is important to them. Finding a mentor is not too difficult, making yourself coachable is the KEY.

4. All in

After checking off the first two points, there’s only one thing left to do. Listen to what your mentor says, follow what they do, and carry out their instructions.

You have already spend the time and effort seeking out your mentor, and they have already decided to guide you, so don’t screw anything up at the last step.

Listen, absorb and go all in. Follow their advise and participate fully!

If you are seeking out young and successful mentors who are retired and living life full, connect with me on Facebook

I wish you success in your journey:)

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decisions

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There are many paths that we can take in the journey of life.

Sometimes we get so caught up on the process of making decision, and end up suffering from “POA” (paralysis by over analysis). That’s when we end up stuck and not being able to move onto the new phrase of life that we were supposed to be looking forward.

There have been times when I have been through the POA phase too. Especially the past few months before I had to graduate. It seemed like such a hugh pivot point in life. I had images in my head where I had to make a decision on what I was going to do with the rest of my life after graduation OR ELSE…. I did not actually know what would happen in the “or else” scenario, but it seemed like the end of the world at that time.

I end up giving too much weight to the decisions I thought I had to make, so much so that I end up NOT enjoying the last few months of schooling. Honestly, I believe that  the days we spent in school, are some of the greatest memories we’d treasure.

At that time, I was pre-occupied with the fact that any decision I would make, would end up closing ALL other options that were previously available. And that single idea, was crippling to me.

My graduation day came and gone, and nothing much happened. The “hugh pivot point of life” turned out to only be a night of celebration and photo taking. The world didnt end, I have friends who are still undecided, me included.

Decisions are scary, especially when it is classified as a “major life decision”. If we know what we want in life, decisions become easier. If we dont, then remember not to be engulf by POA. Remember to enjoy the journey of life!:)