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Types of guidance

In today’s post, I’ll talk about the type of guidance you should seek in your journey to success.


On your path to your goals, you will definitely meet many outstanding individuals. However, not all of them will be suitable mentors to seek out.

Here are 4 points to look out:

1. Do they have the success that YOU want for yourself?


This is the key to seeking out mentors and teachers. They have to be individuals who have achieved what you want to achieve.

By seeking out and modeling individuals who have achieved what you want, you’ll be sure that you are going in the right direction. In addition, with the guidance of these individuals, you may be able to avoid the pitfalls that most people fall for.

2. Mentor vs Senior

Once you have sought out the people who have achieved what you’d want to, differentiate between your seniors and your mentors.


According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, an individual draws his motivation from different needs. A person will only seek to fulfill ‘higher needs’ once the ‘lower needs’ have been fulfilled. (based on the diagram above)

Therefore, it will be useful for one to differentiate between a teacher and a senior. It is good to surround yourself with like minded individuals and seniors, and it would be better to always seek out advise from the teacher.

3. Be the kind of person you’d like to mentor

A mentor is there to guide you and advise you, a mentor is not a boss who’d breath down your next if you did not do what they told you to.

Imagine that you are successful and have a hugh team of 100 people whom wants some of your time, one to one. You told this 100 people to come for a training event that is to be carried out by one of your top team member, and only 5 turned up.

Would you concentrate on guiding the 5 who came, or would you spend time chasing the 95 who did not turn up?


No one likes to herd cats, especially if time is important to them. Finding a mentor is not too difficult, making yourself coachable is the KEY.

4. All in

After checking off the first two points, there’s only one thing left to do. Listen to what your mentor says, follow what they do, and carry out their instructions.

You have already spend the time and effort seeking out your mentor, and they have already decided to guide you, so don’t screw anything up at the last step.

Listen, absorb and go all in. Follow their advise and participate fully!

If you are seeking out young and successful mentors who are retired and living life full, connect with me on Facebook

I wish you success in your journey:)

3 stories

Steve Jobs’ 2005 Stanford Commencement Address

A short 15 minutes video during which Steve Jobs shared 3 powerful stories from his life.

1. Dropping out of college.

You can only connect the dots, looking backwards.

Just trust that everything will connect in the future and give it your all today.

2. Being fired from the company he had created.

Love what you do.

If you have not found it yet, keep looking and experimenting. Don’t settle.

3.Cancer and death.

Death and your ending. Death is life’s change agent.

Life is short, and death will come. So don’t waste it by living someone else’s life.

Connect, Discover, and Respond


In “The Starbucks Experience”,  Michelli shared the following concept of being genuine; to Connect, Discover and Respond.

Although it was taken from Starbucks, I think we can apply the same concept in our daily lives, in the relationships with our family, friends, and colleagues.

No matter what we say, most of us would not mind having a connection with the people we interact with. This connection does not have to be strong or passionate or special, it just has to be present. Therefore, in my opinion, the concept is very apt.

When we are busy, we might end up ignoring the people we care or come into contact with, and this might lead to negative feelings being bottled up.(I am most guilt of this) That will take a toll on future interactions, and on the relationship. Thus, even as we are busy, we should keep this concept in mind.

And as we make use of this concept in our relationships, do keep in mind that the overbearing idea being the concept is to, be genuine.